Project(s)

In *my last post, I shared with you that I wanted to try to take on a few smaller projects and/or personal challenges instead of putting all my effort and energy to one. As I’ve stated before, that usually ends up being really exciting for a moment, followed by a sudden disinterest in whatever it was.

What I’m having trouble with now, is deciding what and how to make good on my word. I’ve started a *bullet journal with some graphs to track certain aspects of my life, so I’ll make more for these little goodies. I just keep getting hung up on how to quantify a success.

Let me list my ideas along with what I might classify as a ✔️, so you can see what I mean:

  • Bullet Journal – one entry (daily)
  • Art – one drawing (daily)
  • Writing – one hour (daily)
  • Blog – one post (weekly)
  • Vlog – one video (weekly)
  • Personal Growth Lectures – one series (monthly)

Consumption vs Creation

Over the past few weeks, I’ve been casually tracking how often I consume things, whether it be food, media, or hobbies. Since I’m born and raised American, I’m sure it will not surprise anyone that the amount I consume far outweighs how much I create. There have been many talks, articles, and blog posts about this topic, so I won’t go into a big spiel about the pros and cons of each. Basically, it’s more fulfilling to create than it is to consume.

Just a couple days ago, I was talking with my mother-in-law, when she told me about one of her family members that’s extremely competitive. At first, I thought my normal thoughts like, “Yeah, they need to lighten up and just have fun,” and  “It’s just a game,” but she helped me gain a new perspective.

She told me that their view is that joining a team or playing a game should mean you are giving your all. If you join a team and only give the minimal amount, you could be filling a spot for someone who would be much more willing to contribute and help the team. That kinda hit me because I definitely haven’t given my all in everything I do, and I know that in some of those areas, I’ve likely cost other people an opportunity.

So, I’ve decided that I need to apply myself more in multiple areas of my life. I need to break through that sudden lack of motivation whenever I sit down to complete a task. I’m starting to realize that life is a very limited time, so I need to start acting like it.

The lyrics “Why do you write like you’re running out of time?” from Hamilton keep repeating in my head.

My goal is to start creating more than I consume. I usually try to take on one specific hobby, but then I get burned out quickly. This time, I’m gonna to step back and just focus on general creation, whether it be a drawing, short stories, or just writing a letter to someone. I just need to start on something. I’ll make a post about my plans and ideas later.

Sadly, however…

Amidst all these thoughts and revelations, my cousin, Ladonna, was killed the other night when she was hit by a car. There was no one at fault, as far as we know, but it doesn’t change the fact that our family lost an amazing woman who always had a smile and made sure that we did, too.

Rest In Peace Ladonna. 😦

Improving My EQ

What is EQ? EQ is basically your Emotional IQ. According to Dictionary.com, EQ is “a(notional)measureofaperson’sadequacyin suchareasasselfawareness,empathy,anddealingsensitivelywith otherpeople.”

One of my biggest problems is that, while I may have a high IQ, my EQ is a bit lacking. I’ve always had trouble connecting with people on an emotional level. It’s not that I don’t care. I just feel like I have a void where most people have a wealth of emotions.

Thanks to Audible‘s (not sponsored) holiday 2-for-1 book special, I was able to pick up a few self-help lecture series for really cheap. After gathering all these goodies, I decided to make my New Years Resolution that I listen to, and apply, all of the lectures throughout the year.

Now, having just downloaded several audiobooks, I had to make a decision (ironically, one of the lecture series has to do with decisiveness). I asked my wife what she thought, and we both agreed that I should listen to Boosting Your Emotional Intelligence, narrated by Professor Jason M. Satterfield.

By the time I finished listening to the first lecture, I knew that big changes were coming. I’ve been able to on identify and control my emotions at a level that I’ve never been able to before. That in and of itself is a big win for me and my family, but I’ve also been learning a lot about the incredible power of EQ. It can obviously improve a person’s personal life, but it’s one of the biggest influences on the success of someone’s career.

One of my big takeaways so far has been the “36 Questions That Lead to Love“. No, I’m not looking for a new wife. Everything is great on that front. It’s actually a series of questions that are intended to bring two people closer regardless of their relationship. As a matter of fact, I’m using these questions to help grow my relationship with my parents right now.

If you’ve been reading my blog, you’ll know that I lost my cousin a few years ago. He was the closest person I had to a brother, and it hurt like hell when I lost him. It really opened my eyes to how much I’ve been taking my relationships for granted, and how quickly it can all be taken away.

Unfortunately, I haven’t applied that revelation very well since then, so I’m pushing myself to grow closer to those that mean the most to me. It’s out of my comfort zone, but the benefits far outweigh the discomfort. If you have someone in your life that you want to grow closer to, I highly recommend that you use these questions to start conversations with them.

Never stop loving.

Consistency is Key

…and my key doesn’t seem to fit.

Once again, I’ve let the blog go unattended for months over a year. I have no excuse. I just lost interest and felt like I had better things to do. I mean, I did, but I could have easily made time to write a few words on here.

So what all have I been up to? I’ll try to go chronologically, but that’s a long way back. Honey, please don’t get mad if I leave something out. It’s late. I’m tired. Love me.

  1. I was transferred to a new location at my work. It was a lateral move, so no loss in pay or position. I didn’t know anyone in my new area, so that was a bit of a social test for me. I can happily report, though, that I’ve now met pretty much everyone and have moved up to a lead position.
  2. A couple months later, my wife and I found out that we were pregnant with our 3rd child. It was a bittersweet moment, as I was super tired when she told me, and my reaction was far less than desirable. I’m not proud. I have since worked very hard to prove to her that my reaction was not true to my feelings. She has forgiven me and said that I’ve succeeded.
  3. I got a Facebook account. My wife and I had been sharing a Facebook account for years. We decided to split our account because it was getting very confusing, and some of her friends wanted to discuss personal things, but weren’t comfortable talking to her with me also able to see what was being said. I always avoided looking at the conversations that she told me to ignore, and to this day, I still don’t know what any of them were about, but I don’t blame her friends for being unsure.
  4. I finally finished reading the Harry Potter series.
  5. Our little Veda was born! She was the smallest baby by far, but she came out in style. I’ll spare you the details, but just know that the nurses hadn’t experienced a birth like Veda’s before. I’ll admit that I was a little nervous about having another baby, since Atlas was so much work for his first 6 months, but Veda has been a fairytale baby. She’s calm, easy-going, happy, and super cute! Her smiles could melt any heart. I’m excited to see her personality develop as she grows, but I don’t want her to grow out of this stage.

Okay, that update was much longer than I anticipated, so I will leave my current events post until another time. I promise it won’t be like my previous disappearance. I’ll post it within the next few days. I’m really excited for it, as I’ve had some revelations and personal growth recently.

Until then, have a great day and hug those you love.

I’m a Multipotentialite

My wife was cleaning our office the other night and wanted to listen to something to help break up the monotony. She decided to listen to some TED talks on the computer, when she stumbled across this video about people who struggle with specializing in their careers and interests. After listening to it, she immediately sent me a text and told me I had to watch it, because it reminded her of me so much.

So I watched it.

She was right (yes, I said it: my wife was right). The speaker described me almost perfectly. She described people like me as “multipotentialites” because we’re always trying new things. Not only do we try many new things, but we dive into them head first.

One of my wife’s biggest complaints when we first got married was that I spent ridiculous amounts of money on hobbies, when I usually lost interest within a couple months—hardly enough time to break in all the fancy new equipment. And she was right.

I love to try new things, and every new thing is “going to be my calling” in my mind. So my mind starts racing and I start to do all the research and planning. Then, I politely ask her if I can get stuff for it, and she usually lets me get the very basics. Of course I feel let down, but that’s just because I can’t go all in like I used to.

And, big shock, the stuff I buy usually ends up sitting in the garage for months or I sell it when I find my next big attraction. So again, she’s right. I’m starting to see a pattern here.

The funny thing is, I was recently thinking about writing a post describing all the hobbies and interests I’ve had in the past, so the timing of her video suggestion timing was perfect.

So here goes. Here are all of my past hobbies and interests that I can remember:

  • Blogging
  • Golf (my current hobby)
  • Novel Writing (still in progress)
  • Astronomy
  • Disc Golf
  • Hockey
  • Journaling
  • Calligraphy
  • Learn French
  • Learn Spanish
  • Flying (ran out of money, but still going to finish this one)
  • Speed Skating (ice and dry land)
  • Curling
  • Karting
  • Wood Carving
  • Podcasting
  • YouTube Channel
  • Blacksmithing
  • Pottery
  • Model Ships
  • Model Warships (that shoot BBs and actually sink)
  • R/C Airplanes
  • Boatbuilding
  • Rowing
  • Sailing
  • Model Roc
  • Triathlon
  • Cartography
  • Architecture
  • Engineering
  • Wilderness Survival
  • Navigation by Stars
  • Movie Production
  • Photography
  • Stop Motion
  • Computer Coding
  • Game Design/Development

There you have it. Those are most of the hobbies that have come and gone over the past decade or so of my life. Some of them were little more than just reading, watching videos, and taking a few lessons. Others put me in debt.

Being a multipotentialite can be expensive and frustrating to me those around me, but it also allows me to experience many new things that most people wouldn’t. As the speaker in the video said, “Multipotentialites, with all of their backgrounds, are able to access a lot of these points of intersection.”

One of the things that my wife has told me is that she’s a bit jealous that I’ve experienced so many different things in my life without hesitation. I may not be an expert in anything, except my current career, but I can use little bits here and there from my list to approach things from a multitude of unique angles.

Simply put, I’m a kaleidoscope of knowledge and experience. Each of my pieces may not make a full, logical picture, but together they make something beautiful.