Improving My EQ

What is EQ? EQ is basically your Emotional IQ. According to, EQ is “a(notional)measureofaperson’sadequacyin suchareasasselfawareness,empathy,anddealingsensitivelywith otherpeople.”

One of my biggest problems is that, while I may have a high IQ, my EQ is a bit lacking. I’ve always had trouble connecting with people on an emotional level. It’s not that I don’t care. I just feel like I have a void where most people have a wealth of emotions.

Thanks to Audible‘s (not sponsored) holiday 2-for-1 book special, I was able to pick up a few self-help lecture series for really cheap. After gathering all these goodies, I decided to make my New Years Resolution that I listen to, and apply, all of the lectures throughout the year.

Now, having just downloaded several audiobooks, I had to make a decision (ironically, one of the lecture series has to do with decisiveness). I asked my wife what she thought, and we both agreed that I should listen to Boosting Your Emotional Intelligence, narrated by Professor Jason M. Satterfield.

By the time I finished listening to the first lecture, I knew that big changes were coming. I’ve been able to on identify and control my emotions at a level that I’ve never been able to before. That in and of itself is a big win for me and my family, but I’ve also been learning a lot about the incredible power of EQ. It can obviously improve a person’s personal life, but it’s one of the biggest influences on the success of someone’s career.

One of my big takeaways so far has been the “36 Questions That Lead to Love“. No, I’m not looking for a new wife. Everything is great on that front. It’s actually a series of questions that are intended to bring two people closer regardless of their relationship. As a matter of fact, I’m using these questions to help grow my relationship with my parents right now.

If you’ve been reading my blog, you’ll know that I lost my cousin a few years ago. He was the closest person I had to a brother, and it hurt like hell when I lost him. It really opened my eyes to how much I’ve been taking my relationships for granted, and how quickly it can all be taken away.

Unfortunately, I haven’t applied that revelation very well since then, so I’m pushing myself to grow closer to those that mean the most to me. It’s out of my comfort zone, but the benefits far outweigh the discomfort. If you have someone in your life that you want to grow closer to, I highly recommend that you use these questions to start conversations with them.

Never stop loving.